There are several bars in and around Los Gigantes where you can go for a quiet chat, several on the Marina for a start. Oasis bar is a lovely place for a drink and chat (through the day only) so is the Lido bar. There is also that place down the stairs next to Yates, but we arn't suposed to mention it! Going back to my early days here the bar at Poblado (next to the reception) was the place, not been there for a while not sure what it is like now. If I dare mention Puerto Santiago and playa Arena, again many bars offer the chance of a quiet chat over a drink. A favourite of mine always has been Franziskana (don't know how it's spelt!) the German bar next to Angelo's furniture shop in Playa Arena.
Look around the area surely there is enough variety to suit everyone but we must remember that the priority of all bars is to cater for the tourists. If we don'b4t like it then take a trip to any of the Spanish villages and sample things Canarian style, it's very nice for a change.